Category Archives: Relational

Red Fox Fitness is Officially Open!


Slide1We are only weeks away from starting classes and opening up the gym!! We are taking memberships now for a limited time at a discounted rate! So HURRY and sign up! You’ll get 1/2 OFF of your Registration!! Feel free to call at (704) 488-5121 if you have any questions! Here are the forms that you’ll need to fill out or take a look at!!

Health History Questionnaire & Consent Form

Membership Agreement

Rules of Conduct

 

September RFF Class Schedule

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I was interviewed yesterday! Land of the Waxhaws & Mark Appleyard… What fun!


I was a bit nervous yesterday morning…I didn’t know what to expect!  I got a message and a call from a new friend of mine – Jim Black!  Jim is the founder of The Land of the Waxhaw and what I call Waxhaw Paparazzi!  He wanted to introduce me to Mark Appleyard who is the Pastor of CrossRoads Church right here in Waxhaw.

Mark is a champion when it comes to supporting and promoting local business and community and wanted to see what Red Fox Fitness was all about!

 

Here is the interview itself and the link to his weekly show on uStream:

 

http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/37337403

 

Don’t Engage…Be Present by Bradley Grinnen


Here’s a great post about how we can react when we are situations that are rubbing us wrong! It’s not always easy to be “controlled” in those moments! My friend Bradley Grinnen gives a thoughtful view on confrontations….”Don’t Engage…Be Present”

Thanks Bradley!

Don't Engage...Be Present by Bradley Grinnen
Don’t Engage…Be Present by Bradley Grinnen

Bradley Grinnen

Full disclosure… I am unmistakably a believer.  In this space I often use the term ‘The Divine’ to refer to the Higher Power.  Please allow yourself to replace ‘The Divine’ with how you’ve come to know and understand God.

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The world has a funny way of bumping into us and completely changing our inner state of being.  One moment we’re happy and content, going through our day, and then BAM!  Someone that we really don’t feel good being around runs into us with the kind of passing comment that can immediately derail us.  We end up having 4 or 5 different conversations with that person in our head for the rest of the day.  Maybe we tell them off.  Maybe we logically box them into a corner and then knock them out with the tremendously practiced words we’ve worked so hard to come up with.  All in our head…

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My Respect for Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson


Much Respect for this man from “Red Fox”

Many of you know how much I adore The Rock.  What you may not realize is why.  Yes…he’s big tall handsome guy with muscles and a star!  That’s not why (I know…it doesn’t hurt!).  Rather than put too much into my own words, I thought I’d share a video of his.  From all that I’ve read and seen from him, he is a guy with real class.  An encourager of others.  A dreamer who’s made it all come true!

I like him because if he can do it…YOU can do it!

Someday, I’ll get the chance to interview him and give that story to all of you!  In the meantime, check this out!  Be sure to follow him in the Social Media world and get encouraged each day!!

Make today great!!

~Pamela

Pamela “Red Fox” Smith

For my sons…love is unconditional…


I see men struggle…putting too much faith in what they do and forgetting just simply who they are.  They are loved…just for being themselves.  Unconditionally.

I have two boys….one is almost 22…My “Man” and yet…he’s working hard on his identity.

The second is 11 and a new middle schooler…My other “Man”  Still innocent and full wonder…it will tested just like his older brothers.

What I want them and other men just like them to know….

Love is Unconditional.

  • Not what you do
  • Not what you’ve accomplished
  • Not who you hang out with
  • Not your grades
  • Not how well you do your job

We all slip and fall…make mistakes…and struggle through our learning curves…it’s ok.  

Jars of Clay have a great little song called Boys (Lesson One)

Take a listen…the lyrics are to follow.  Know…you are loved…just the way you are.  No need to hide from that…ever!  It’s a baseline to start all other endeavors!  I know there are many!  Men are our hero’s and protectors.  The ones that charge forward..fearlessly.  Just remember…the Baseline!

~Pamela

Lesson one – do not hide

Lesson two – there are right ways to fight
And if you have questions
We can talk through the night

So you know who you are
And you know what you want
I’ve been where you’re going
And it’s not that far
It’s too far to walk
But you don’t have to run
You’ll get there in time

Lesson three – you’re not alone
Not since I saw you start breathing on your own
You can leave, you can run, this
Will still be your home

So you know who you are
And you know what you want
I’ve been where you’re going
And it’s not that far
It’s too far to walk
But you don’t have to run
You’ll get there in time
Get there in time

In time, to wonder where the days have gone
In time, to be old enough to
Wish that you were young
When good things are unraveling,
Bad things come undone
You weather love and lose your innocence

There will be liars and
Thieves who take from you
Not to undermine the consequence
But you are not what you do
And when you need it most
I have a hundred reasons why I love you

If you weather love and lose your innocence
Just remember – lesson one

Love – How deep can it go?


Jim and Red Fox working together

I’ve been hurt in my past.  Maybe you have to.  Love seems too many times something that I have to earn or justify or work so dang hard for!  Like the paycheck from work, so don’t screw up too much or you’ll get fired!  I guess it’s because I’ve lived long enough to deal with friends walking away from something I’ve done.  Wonder what it was?  Hurtful words are sometimes thrown around – even from me! And they bite!  Or, the one I care for just slips away…I’m left wondering what went wrong!

I’ve studied behaviors and thinking patterns and personalities from people for years!  I’ve read so many books on the subject – I’m fascinated with it all really.  I am certified in what’s called “Formal Axiology” which is the Mathematical Measurement of the way people think.  Now that’s a mouthful.  I’m also certified with Personality tests…I was asked If I can read minds last night…well, no.  But it would feel like that if I did open up about how you think and what makes you tick.  I’ve had countless people in tears…grown men cry over me talking about what’s in their lives.  Things that I shouldn’t know because I don’t know them!

Jim and Pamela Celebrating

I get messages every day about personal things from people who know that I write for Red Fox.  They struggle with issues…honestly, I think people just want to know that they are ok, to know a direction, and to be reassured that it’s possible to achieve.   We are really hurting out there!

When I met my Jimmy, what struck the most was that no matter what came his direction from me or my four children (two were teenagers), he reassured me often that he wasn’t gong anywhere!  He wasn’t leaving or walking away.  He loved me.  He loved me and let me know this WAAAY before I would allow myself to believe it!  Like I said, I had been hurt!  I had conditional love before and I wanted no part of it!

I tell my children that I may not like what they have done, but no matter what I still love them and will never walk away!  Why?  Because no matter what I do or how much I “miss the mark” God doesn’t ever walk away from me!  He loves me unconditionally.  He loved me while I was still in the midst of my sin (and still does when I sin!)  I don’t go out and test the love Jim has for me…not on purpose.  I stay loyal and helpful and encouraging to him to the best of my ability.  I don’t test God’s love for me either…I don’t ever want to grieve either God or Jim.  However, that love is tested regardless!  I’ve been rude.  I’ve been selfish, angry…these things step on the toes of the one that loves me unconditionally.  I can hurt those closest to me.  I’m sorry.  It can happen to me as well!  What will I do when it does happen?

To walk away looking for someone else who is going to be “better” or perfect means to let go on love itself.  I’m not judging those who have…Jim and I are both divorced.  I get it.  I don’t wish it on anyone!! It was painful to all parties involved!

Jim and Pamela on their wedding day

I know…I mean I really know that Jim loves me.  I know this by how we dated.  Poor thing, I put him through the ringer before I would make that commitment to him.  I don’t need to test that at this point.  We’ve made those vows.  Is he perfect???  🙂 No.  But when He or I get off base we have to agree to talk it though (it doesn’t always start out the best way…but we do get there and work it through!)  We have two things that we can trust with all our hearts…We both love Jesus Christ and have trusted Him with our lives and hearts…and we love each other.

This past February, Jim sent me a song that I’ve adored ever since.  It’s now becoming popular!  Here it is with all its beauty.  This song is a true statement in every relationship and I believe we all crave such a thing.  To not experience it leaves a hole in our lives!  It is there for you and for me…first and foremost through God Himself!  Next through how we love and take care of ourselves!  When we are able to implement this love into our lives through these areas, we will attract more and more of it from the outside relationships as well!  Take a listen…

Love is a Four letter word 

is the album and the song is:

Jason Marz – I Won’t Give Up