Ever ride dirt bikes in the mud? Or two-tracking with a truck? Yes, it’s true I grew up in Michigan and that proves it! At any rate… The tires can get pretty thick with mud and sticks and rocks. It gets thrown everywhere! When it comes time to clean it all off though, it can get tough. The longer you wait the harder it gets and scrubbing becomes more and more difficult.
I’ve been thinking about bitterness, anger, self-loathing, doubt, fear-many of these feelings and self-talk come from unforgiveness. These feelings can come whether they come from unforgiving others and all that they have done to me, or unforgiving myself and how I acted or things that I’ve said. The longer I wait to forgive and allow myself to wallow in these negative emotions which keep me far away from God and from others (even myself!), the more difficult it is to clean up! It gets crusty and deep-rooted allowing more and more of the same behavior to be attracted to us! It’s ugly and a burden to carry around. Sometimes we carry these scares even when we think we’ve cleaned it all up causing us to hurt and not even know it. We need to search our hearts and have these areas revealed. When they are shown to us, we need to quickly humble ourselves and take action to forgive or ask for forgiveness.
We need forgiveness-letting go of what others have done to us, of what we have done to others and what we’ve done to ourselves. We need to free ourselves of these weights therefore freeing up God’s blessings and love to freely flow in and through us.
You’ve heard of “Hurting people hurt people”? Well, the opposite is true too. When we are free to love ourselves-forgiving the wrongs, we touch other people’s lives in ways we may not even realize it. Blessing them and giving a bit of tenderness or kindness to others. We can also feel confident and secure in knowing that we don’t have to defend our actions or relent in the hurts any longer. Boy, all this sure is needed! We are hurting as a society, as families, as individuals. We are more lonely and hurt than ever. We need to look inward and see what needs forgiveness and our letting go so that we can enjoy love, peace, tenderness and compassion again fully, the way God intended it in the first place!